Families and divorce

Coronavirus: have you agreed Christmas holiday arrangements for your children?

UPDATED 25 NOVEMBER 2020

The Christmas holiday season can be stressful enough for divorced parents. To add to the strain, the ever-changing raft of Covid-related restrictions means planning for this important time of year feels nigh-on impossible.

On 22 November, Boris Johnson announced the following measures during the festive period of 23 to 27 December in England and Wales 

  • you can form an exclusive ‘Christmas bubble’ composed of people from no more than three households
  • The government has also clarified that existing support count as one household towards the three-household limit, 
  • On the other hand, if you are in a childcare bubble, this does count as a separate household
  • Children can be in both of their parents Christmas bubbles, even if their parents form separate Christmas bubbles.
  • you can only be in one Christmas bubble
  • you cannot change your Christmas bubble
  • you can travel between tiers and UK nations for the purposes of meeting your Christmas bubble
  • you can only meet your Christmas bubble in private homes or in your garden, places of worship, or public outdoor spaces
  • you can continue to meet people who are not in your Christmas bubble outside your home according to the rules in the tier where you are staying
  • you cannot meet someone in a private dwelling who is not part of your household or Christmas bubble

Outside of this period, the existing tier system will remain.

Global pandemic aside, every year our family law solicitors advise parents who are facing difficult questions around the Christmas holidays following a divorce. For a lot of families, issues tend to centre around deciding who the children will spend Christmas day with and what happens when a parent faces spending the whole of Christmas without seeing their children.  

Christmas child arrangements and Covid

For the most part, our advice remains the same:

Plan ahead where possible

In ‘normal’ times, most families adjust to life after separation, meaning that children spend time during the festive period with both parents. If handled sensitively, children adjust quickly and look forward to the opportunity to share their Christmas holiday celebrations with both parts of their family.

Usually, it is the parents who find adjusting to not being able to be with their child over the entire Christmas period the hardest. The key is to plan ahead and not leave difficult decisions to the last minute.  

Consider the bigger picture

Some parents tell us that they dread the onset of the festive period and struggle to accept the new arrangements. Long term, being able to truly co-parent your child so that they understand that both parents love them and want to spend positive periods of time with them, is the ideal. It’s easier for some to achieve this than others.

Talk to each other

If there are no welfare issues, it is usually quicker and cheaper to use a mediator rather than going to court. They will arrange a meeting with your former partner, and their solicitor (if any/appropriate) to negotiate how childcare over the Christmas holidays will be split. Communication is key: airing your thoughts normally pays off, allowing you to negotiate a fair, practical custody agreement over the festive season well in advance.

Ensuring your child can spend time with both parents, and extended family, is vital to most - providing the restrictions in place will allow. Your plans don’t have to focus around the grandparent’s availability but making sure your child can see their extended family over the Christmas holidays is important to the entire family.

If you need help with you child care arrangement, talk to us today

Further advice for these uncertain times

In order to try and combat the current uncertainties posed by the pandemic, we suggest making plans based on the current rules where possible. In addition to this:

  • agree on a contingency plan for if the worst happens and tier restrictions continue.
  • Don’t leave your plans to the last minute. In light of the public holidays, if you think Christmas is going to be a problem, seek legal advice well in advance of 21st December. This will give you plenty of time to reach an agreement that suits the needs of both parents, and your children.
  • Think creatively - with fewer places set round the table during your celebrations, make sure to think about ways to involve members of the family who could not join this year. For example, set up a group video call during the big dinner so you can all still “sit” round a table together. 

It is really important that, during this difficult time, parents work collaboratively and accept that there will have to be some compromises. The Christmas holidays are always a source of contention, and the new complications and restrictions will unfortunately add pressure to an already difficult conversation. 

If you are struggling to agree on plans this year – or any other time of year– try speaking to a neutral third party or mediator to help you plan ahead as much as possible. Clare Pilsworth is a mediator in our Cambridge office, and she would be happy to have a discussion with you and your co-parent about making the most of the festive period this year.

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